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You are outgoing, intelligent, caring. You also have to be able to figure me out. While I'm neither Albert Einstein nor Forest Gump, I am a deceptively complicated person and I need to feel understood

I'm naturally introverted and reserved. I'm also a very good listener. To me a place is just a place, without the people that I care about. I like being places. I dislike going places. The traveling part is exhausting and I don’t care for it. I find day trips to be exhausting because I'm cramped in a small space long enough to make me exhausted and I don't get to spend enough time at the destination to recharge my batteries. Weekend trips are better. You’d never notice from looking at me but checking out of a hotel makes me feel uneasy because it means that I’m homeless, until my plane takes off. I have learned how to be outgoing, when necessary, but it is draining and I have to spend time by myself, or at least in silence, to recharge. This can result in my being slightly awkward if I run out of things to talk about because I fall back to introverted behavior until I can think of something else to talk about. I occasionally enjoy abstract conversations where both parties speak in analogies and avoid explicitly mentioning the actual topic of conversation. I like being around people but, in a group setting, I'll usually sit quietly and listen. I often spend my time alone but I can bore myself if left alone for too long. I need someone who can pull me out of my shell, so to speak, which is probably why I'm generally attracted to extroverted women. I enjoy doing many things but they rarely spark my interest when I'm by myself. A lot of guys are passionate about a specific activity be it hunting, cars, sports, etc. I'm not like that. I have plenty of hobbies(like building a remote controlled submarine which can safely transport a mouse to the bottom of a lake and back) but I don't have a hobby that I'm passionate about, to the exclusion of all else. To me, an experience is enjoyable because of who I'm with not because of what I'm doing.

I’ve often been misunderstood, in my previous relationships, in various ways, and I think women have often mistaken my reserved nature for weakness or submissiveness and nothing could be farther from the truth. I have a pretty stiff backbone and I don't have any difficulty asserting myself, if I think the situation calls for it. I can be extremely stubborn and it's very difficult to get me to change my mind once I've made a decision. Typically, the only way to do so is by bringing something to my attention that I haven't already thought of(or perhaps remind me of an inconvenient truth that I'd prefer to ignore).

Cars, outdoors, weightlifting, snowboarding, running, sports, going to the beach.